saya tak plan pun nak tulis entry baru....but, because of hasya's changes behaviour, i would like to share it with all readers....beberapa hari lepas, kediaman kami diziarahi oleh sepasang suami isteri...kawan kami la...si suami ni one of my abang's bestfriend.. isteri dia kawan saya and at the same time junior my abang kat sekolah Tok Jiring dulu...
dorang datang lepas isyak...waktu tidur hasya sekarang ni dalam pukul 9.30 hingga 10.30 malam...tapi malam tu,hasya tidur agak awal iatu pukul 9malam...saya dah siap masak nasi ayam utk tetamu kami malam tu..ok..my abang sangat craving dengan nasi ayam....beberapa hari berturut-turut dia suruh saya masak nasi ayam...hehe
ok..bila dorang sampai, hasya terjaga dari tidur...so,biasanya saya akan tepuk-tepuk balik bagi dia tidur semula..tapi malam tu, tak sempat..mata hasya dah terbukak luas....dan orang pertama yg hasya tengok ialah hazirah, isteri kawan my abang iatu shahril...mula-mula ok lagi...tiba-tiba...
waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawaaaaaaaaaaaaa...
hasya menangis dengan kuatnya....saya terkejut..pandang suami...dia pun terkejut..tak pernah lagi hasya menangis bila orang lain ambil or dukung dia....saya pun pujuk-pujuk dia...dukung and agah dia..pun tak jalan...huhu..ok...assume dia mengamuk sebab tidur terganggu...then,assume dia panas pulak..so,saya kuatkan kelajuan kipas ke tahap maksima..still,nanges jugak...so,bagilah ubat terakhir...direct breastfeeding...tu pun,mula-mula dia still nanges teresak-esak...lama-lama dah ok skit emosinya, saya pun keluarla tunjukkan hasya pada tetamu kami tu..
mula-mula ok la jugak...saya bagi mainan and hasya bagi respons..tapi lepas tu,nanges balik....so,terus la saya je yg pegang hasya sampai hasya tertidur..
petang tadi..sekali lagi hasya menangis bila orang lain dukung dia....huhu. padahal dalam kereta bukan main hasya berborak dengan abi..so,saya assume hasya dah mula kenal strangers...orang yg dia tak biasa tengok...biasanya ada ummi dan abi je...plus,ramai kawan-kawan yg berkumpul tadi...so,saya bagilah ubat mujarab macam sebelum ni dan terus hasya tidur...
then,google la..apa lagi..hehe...its normal to a baby to have a strangers anxiety feeling...rasa tak secure je...how to act:
* Babies tend to sense what you are feeling and mimic your actions. So, if you smile to a stranger, react pleasantly to them, meet with them warmly, your child is likely to imitate you and will be all smiles and warm towards him or her.
* Since the babies still don’t understand much of what you want them to understand, you may inform the stranger for the baby about her anxiety and tell them that she would not like them intrude into her personal space or touch her and may react by crying or aggressively.
* Ask significant strangers, such as grandparents who the baby is seeing for the first time, to give your baby some time to be comfortable around them and be friendly and let you help. Instead of approaching the baby, they can play with her favorite toy or do her favorite activities as she observes them or gift her a toy that she desires so much, so that she warms up to them and do not feel threatened by them. Seeing them so cool make the baby feel that they are more like her and share her interests and she then may want to go to them and play with them.
* While meeting someone for the first time, smile and greet the person while you are still away from them. The space will make your baby feel safer and give her the time to adjust to the idea that if you are smiling to the person and chatting cheerfully with him or her, the person must be friendly. This may get the child to drop caution and anxiety and connect well to the stranger too.
* Since the babies still don’t understand much of what you want them to understand, you may inform the stranger for the baby about her anxiety and tell them that she would not like them intrude into her personal space or touch her and may react by crying or aggressively.
* Ask significant strangers, such as grandparents who the baby is seeing for the first time, to give your baby some time to be comfortable around them and be friendly and let you help. Instead of approaching the baby, they can play with her favorite toy or do her favorite activities as she observes them or gift her a toy that she desires so much, so that she warms up to them and do not feel threatened by them. Seeing them so cool make the baby feel that they are more like her and share her interests and she then may want to go to them and play with them.
* While meeting someone for the first time, smile and greet the person while you are still away from them. The space will make your baby feel safer and give her the time to adjust to the idea that if you are smiling to the person and chatting cheerfully with him or her, the person must be friendly. This may get the child to drop caution and anxiety and connect well to the stranger too.
so,lepas ni,kami kena well-prepared la dari segi emosi kami jugak..huhu...sebab lepas ni memang selalu nak expose hasya to outsiders kan..plus,petang esok saya nak join white coat ceremony utk new junior of pharmacy..huhu..harap-harap dapatla pujuk hasya....doakan ye...
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